Do you want to know how to talk to anyone with ease and confidence? In this episode, you will learn science-backed psychological tricks to be more successful, charismatic, and influential today. Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of The Science of People (@Vvanedwards a behavior lab that studies high achievers and the science of confidence and body language. Her research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills and become a more successful person by using the same simple habits that almost every high achiever has. Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-167 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 04:47: The shortcuts high achievers take to communicate effectively. 05:32: The mistake most people make when working on their goals. 08:08: These relationships are the most toxic ones. 13:34: What makes some kids more popular than others will surprise you. 15:41:How to make your friendships stronger. 20:29: People who make mistakes are more likable. 24:47: How your toes give you away when you’re in a group. 26:13: Do this when you walk into a room to appear more confident. 34:23: Why your office chair should have arm rests and swivel. 39:12: Here’s why you are more likely to believe gestures than words. 42:21: How to stop using vocal fry or get someone else to stop doing it. 44:07: Use these words to set your team up for success. 49:11: What to add to your calendar every day to keep you motivated. 51:08: What are the best conversation starters? 56:53: How other people’s fear is contagious. 1:01:12: The worst place to stand in a room when you’re at a party. 1:04:53: How to figure out what you’re really good at. 1:14:41: What do highly effective people do at the end of the day? #confidence #confident #bodylanguage — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah