Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Today on the podcast, you and I are having a deeply personal and eye-opening conversation about #alcohol and your relationship to it. Rachel Hart is a best-selling author and master #coach who has helped thousands of people re-examine their relationship with alcohol, and that’s exactly what she is going to help you do today. Rachel knows the surprising reason you (and I) crave a #drink (or have the urge to shop, vape, play video games, scroll on social media, or want something sweet). She’ll also explain that weird cycle of emotions you experience after #drinking. Did I drink too much last night? Did I do anything I regret? Should I stop drinking altogether? Should I detox this week before the wedding next weekend? How do I drink less? Maybe it’s time I stopped altogether. You’ll learn that this agitation and conflict about alcohol are normal. The question is, How do you change it? Rachel says, by examining the desires underneath the urge. Today, Rachel will help you unpack urges and desires and teach you why boundaries go right out the window when you feel an urge. Today you’ll learn: - What your drinking might really be all about (it’s not what you think) - Why feeling conflicted about drinking is normal - Where do urges really come from, and how do you ignore them? - How your first experience with alcohol impacts your relationship with it - What your desires are trying to tell you - How to ditch the shame once and for all - The complicated messaging around alcohol - The 30-day plan Rachel uses with all her clients Not sure if you have a problem with alcohol? Worried about someone else who does? You're not ready to quit alcohol all together, but you wish you’d not reach for the glass of wine most nights. Wonder if maybe you should stop? Perfect. Listen in. You can change your relationship with alcohol. After this episode, you’ll know how. Xo, Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 02:24 Why is your relationship with alcohol so confusing? 09:12 The shame cycle I go through every time I drink 14:56 Has drinking become your way of belonging in a social setting? 18:15 You are creating boundaries that justify your cravings and urges. 22:02 What your urges and cravings are trying to communicate to you 29:35 Tool #1: Name the urge when it’s happening. 36:34 Tool #2: Change your phone wallpaper to this 40:32 Stop looking for answers from others. You have an inner knowing of what’s best for you. 49:39 Tool #3: Ask yourself, If you couldn’t drink for the rest of your life, what would it feel like? 56:30 Disappointment when you give up your urges is normal. 59:35 How to stop drinking without stopping drinking 1:02:25 The difference between your upper and lower brain and what you need to know 1:08:14 Learning how to change means having a different relationship with commitment. 1:17:13 Tool #4: Establish your "why" — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah