Why fear of other people’s opinions (FOPO) holds us back, and what to do about it. Dan Harris is joined by Michael Gervais, a high performance psychologist and host of @FindingMastery  podcast. His new book is called The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying About What People Think of You. In this episode we talk about: - A handy new acronym: FOPO, Fear of People’s Opinions - How the evolutionary roots of our desire for social acceptance work against us in the modern world - Why caring about what others think is not the same thing as worrying about what others think - The difference between a purpose-based identity and a performance-based identity - The anti-FOPO power of things like: imagination, journaling, meditation, social support, and considering your mortality - Why focusing less on yourself can be the greatest bulwark against FOPO Learn more about Ten Percent Happier podcast at http://www.tenpercent.com/podcast. Check out guided meditations alongside practical teachings in the Ten Percent Happier app. Click here [https://10percenthappier.app.link/ins...] to get started. #fopo #michaelgervais #findingmastery #danharris #meditation #mentalhealth #mindfulness #dharma #podcast #mindfulnessteacher #adults #anxiety #buddha #buddhism #fitness #health #interview #meditate #men #mental #help #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthtips #mindfulnessmeditation #science #selfawareness #selfhelp #selfhealing #tph #tenpercenthappier #tenpercent #panicattack #panicattackrelief #anxietyrelief #anxietytips Subscribe to watch more Ten Percent Happier videos https://www.youtube.com/tenpercenthappier Listen to the Full Podcast https://link.chtbl.com/Y_729H6p FOLLOW DAN HARRIS PODCASTS ON SOCIAL Dan Harris on Twitter https://twitter.com/danbharris Dan Harris on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/danharris/ Dan Harris on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@danbharris Dan Harris on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DanHarrisABC FOLLOW TEN PERCENT HAPPIER ON SOCIAL Ten Percent Happier on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tenpercenthappier/ Ten Percent Happier on Twitter https://twitter.com/10percent Ten Percent Happier on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tenpercent 00:00:00 Introduction to Michael Gervais, author of Fear of Other People's Opinions (FOPO) 00:03:00 Origins of Social Rejection 00:04:00 Impact of Social Media 00:06:41 Michael Gervais' origin story of social rejection 00:14:00 How damaging FOPO is 00:21:00 Research study about social rejection 00:26:00 Western performance-based cultures 00:32:00 Second self or Code switching 00:47:00 Theres no I in Team 00:58:00 How meditation can help FOPO