Today it’s great to chat with Julie Lythcott-Haims on the show. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. Julie is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021. Topics [1:32] How Julie defines “adulting” [3:07] How the way we define adulthood has changed over time [5:59] What is the “adult mindset”? [8:00] Why Julie challenges the “right track” concept of adulthood [15:07] Julie’s advice to those who want to take an unconventional path [18:57] Julie’s advice to those struggling with questions of identity [20:46] Julie’s encounters with racism and “othering” [26:21] Julie’s promise of inclusivity and how she overcame her struggles [29:40] Julie’s thoughts on self-acceptance and self-love [33:22] How Julie collected inspiring stories from people for her book [37:15] Julie’s advice to people who struggle to embrace outsiders [40:17] How Julie ended up interviewing her Lyft driver for her book [42:54] Julie’s reflections on intuition and her observational capacity [45:43] “Life’s beautiful F-words” Subscribe to The Psychology Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/psychology-podcast-dr.-scott/id942777522 https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/the-psychology-podcast-with-scott-barry-kaufman/the-psychology-podcast-with-dr-scott-barry-kaufman?refid=stpr See past episodes and join in the Discussion: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepsychologypodcast?ref=br_tf Twitter: https://twitter.com/psychpodcast #ThePsychologyPodcast