This episode is sponsored by Hiya and ZocDoc. Hiya: Go to https://hiyahealth.com/UNPLANNED and receive 50% off your first order. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. ZocDoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to https://Zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED to find and instantly book a top rated doctor today. We sat down with Dr. Julie Smith (@DrJulie ) —a New York Times bestselling author and psychologist whose mental health content has helped millions navigate anxiety and depression. In this conversation, we talk postpartum identity, mom guilt, why your emotions might be lying to you, and how to use comparison well. Julie's IG: https://www.instagram.com/drjulie/ Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbbyHoward Chapters: 00:00 - Dr Julie Smith 03:25 - Parenting as a therapist 07:11 - How to become a bestselling author 10:36 - People need this information 14:28 - The importance of community 17:40 - Why do people in the UK use the term "rabbit in headlights"? 19:27 - Cancer diagnosis 20:10 - Rewriting the book 26:01 - Emotions and Predation 35:38 - Comparing yourself to other people 39:00 - Feeling guilty posting to TikTok as a clinical psychologist 42:09 - Preparing for postpartum depression 47:03 - Balancing hormones and emotions 54:07 - The difference between "I am anxious" and "I am feeling anxious” 56:59 - Parenthood makes you more scared 1:00:17 - How an outward focus in social situations can be beneficial 1:06:16 - How to take care of yourself when you're a caretaker 1:09:32 - The first step to get your mental health back on track? 1:14:46 - What to do if you can't afford therapy 1:19:02 - The most toxic relationship advice 1:21:47 - Never Telling Kids No 1:23:10 - What coffee or tea do you drink? #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby