This episode is sponsored by Everyday dose, StoryWorth, BetterHelp & Article. Everyday dose: Get 61% off your first Coffee+ Starter Kit, a free A2 Probiotic Creamer, with over $100 in free gifts by going to http://everydaydose.com/UNPLANNED or entering UNPLANNED at checkout StoryWorth: Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to http://storyworth.com/unplanned! BetterHelp: Our listeners get 10% off at http://BetterHelp.com/unplannedpodcast #ad Article: Article is offering our listeners $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more To claim, visit http://ARTICLE.COM/unplanned and the discount will be automatically applied at checkout Arthur Brooks is is one of the world’s leading experts on the science of human happiness, a Harvard professor, columnist of the popular "How To Build A Life" in The Atlantic, and a #1 New York Times bestselling author of 15 books. The Meaning of Your Life, out March 31, 2025, pre-order your copy today at the link! https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/724315/the-meaning-of-your-life-by-arthur-c-brooks/ Continue the conversation and stay connected with Arthur: The Happiness Files - https://www.arthurbrooks.com/books Website - https://arthurbrooks.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ArthurBrooks/ YouTube - @drarthurbrooks LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/3fT0FLFsPgV2mbVjuOo3JV X - https://x.com/arthurbrooks Office Hours with Arthur Brooks Podcast Join 150,000+ readers of The Art & Science of Happiness newsletter: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/ Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbbyHoward #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby Chapters: 00:00 - Arthur C. Brooks 01:12 - Why your parents are responsible for your happiness 02:32 - Finding my life's purpose at 55 years old 04:25 - Does marriage make you happier? 06:16 - Why marriages fail 10:56 - Why you shouldn't trust your feelings 17:12 - Why half of scientists are religious 24:49 - Why soul mates aren't real 28:39 - Why pornography leads to unhappiness 32:12 - Why teenagers make poor decisions 35:24 - Why shouldn't live with your partner before get... 37:25 - The best time to get married in order to have a... 40:08 - Why you shouldn't just talk about kids with you 43:14 - Why marriages fail 46:06 - How to feel connected to your kids 53:31 - How to find happiness again 55:19 - Why anger doesn't lead to divorce 1:02:20 - Why GLP1 drugs can be harmful to your mental health 1:05:55 - The best way to manage on happiness 1:12:55 - Why are the most successful people aren't as happy as you think 1:19:38 - Why becoming a victim makes you a pawn 1:20:43 - How politicians manipulate people 1:22:48 - The #1 predictor of divorce