Ready to begin or deepen your meditation practice? Join Dan Harris and world-class meditation teachers on the 10% with Dan Harris app here: https://app.danharris.com/membership Most of us are quietly running the same strategy: stack up as many pleasurable experiences as possible so we never have to look into the abyss. The Buddha had a name for this — licking honey off the edge of a razor — and a counterintuitive upgrade that actually works. Joseph Goldstein is one of the most influential meditation teachers in the West, the author of books including "One Dharma," and a co-founder of the legendary Insight Meditation Society. This is the latest installment in an ongoing series where Dan interviews Joseph about the pithy teaching phrases — Buddhist earworms — he's collected over decades, eventually headed for a book. In this episode we talk about: – The three personality types (greedy, aversive, deluded) and how spotting yours depersonalizes almost everything – "The terrible bait of the world" — and how to see the hook without biting – Why "not wanting" is a greater pleasure than getting what you want – The seven kinds of happiness, and why sense pleasure is dead last – Reframing renunciation as "non-addiction" (yes, even your morning coffee counts) – Gratification, danger, and escape — a Buddhist framework you can actually use – Why disenchantment and disillusionment are good news, not a downer – "How much is enough?" — and why contentment is the real wealth – The difference between guilt and wise remorse — and why guilt is a trick of the ego Subscribe to watch more 10% Happier videos: https://www.youtube.com/tenpercenthappier Follow Dan Harris on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/danharris/ https://www.tiktok.com/@danbharris https://www.facebook.com/DanHarrisABC https://twitter.com/danbharris https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-harris-91ba5716b/ 0:00:00 Licking honey off a razor 0:03:00 The greedy, aversive, and deluded types 0:07:00 Why this game depersonalizes everything 0:08:00 The terrible bait of the world 0:12:00 Why sense pleasure can't fulfill its promise 0:16:00 Renunciation reframed as non-addiction 0:18:00 The broken coffee grinder "disaster" 0:22:00 The seven kinds of happiness 0:30:00 Letting a desire pass — a practical instruction 0:32:00 "Whatever has the nature to arise will also pass away" 0:36:00 Gratification, danger, and escape 0:41:00 The counterintuitive upgrade 0:46:00 How much is enough? 0:53:00 Why you can't take responsibility for other people's minds 0:59:00 Lust cracks the brain 1:03:00 Guilt vs. wise remorse #10PercentHappier #JosephGoldstein #buddhism Sponsors: Function: 160+ lab tests a year for $365, with the ability to dive deeper into your results through connections to platforms you already use. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/happier or use gift code HAPPIER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.