Mercedes Coffman is a writer, researcher, and cultural commentator. What’s happening with modern dating? People who are genuinely ready for a relationship feel frustrated, even punished by a shallow dating pool, yet others seem to find real love every day. So what’s actually broken, and what can be fixed? Expect to learn why avoidant culture is changing relationship expectations, if modern dating is punishing emotionally available people, why dating fatigue is kicking in, if someone is actually too busy for you or if they just say they are, the most common ways people unknowingly sabotage their own relationships, why you can just “fix her” and much more… - Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://shopify.com/modernwisdom Get 15% off your first order of my favourite Non-Alcoholic Brew at https://athleticbrewing.com/modernwisdom Get ChatGPT to explore ideas, solve problems, and learn faster at https://chatgpt.com - 0:00 How Avoidant Culture is Rewriting Relationships 1:55 Does Modern Dating Punish Emotionally Availability? 4:20 What Makes Emotionally Available People Vulnerable? 8:51 How to Spot Emotional Availability 12:00 What Does a Perfect Match Really Look Like? 13:33 What Blocks True Alignment? 16:39 Are We Too Obsessed With Love? 25:28 Why Discernment is the Ultimate Relationship Skill 34:23 How Do Rom-Coms Distort Our Love Lives 37:02 Romantasy: Escapism or Soft-Core Porn? 39:55 Does Desire Outpace Emotional Capacity? 42:53 Why We Self-Sabotage in Relationships 45:10 The Best Way to Build Emotional Capacity 46:16 Does Trauma Drive Relationship Self-Sabotage? 49:32 We Need to Start With Self-Acceptance 01:04:07 Why We Crave Chaos and Stability 01:07:34 Love Bombing: The Most Dangerous Red Flag 01:14:15 Who Falls Hardest Into Limerence? 01:17:35 Why Inconsistent Praise Hooks You In 01:25:37 The Wrong People Are the Hardest to Get Over 01:27:30 Stop Being So Hard on Yourself 01:28:53 How to Comfortably Hold Your Boundaries 01:30:33 Where to Find Mercedes - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/