Alisa Cohn on Prenups for Startup Founders, How to Reinvent Your Career, the Importance of “Pre-Mortems,” and the Three Selves | Brought to you by Kettle & Fire (http://kettleandfire.com/tim), Wealthfront (http://wealthfront.com/tim), and Allform (http://allform.com/tim). Show Notes: https://tim.blog/2021/10/19/alisa-cohn/#more-57914 Alisa Cohn (@AlisaCohn) is one of the most prominent startup coaches in the world. She has advised founders and executives at Venmo, Etsy, DraftKings, Wirecutter, Mack Weldon, InVision, Tory Burch, and others. She has also coached CEOs and C-suite executives at enterprises such as Dell, Hitachi, Sony, Google, Microsoft, Bloomberg, The New York Times Company, and Calvin Klein. She is the author of From Start-Up to Grown-Up, a guidebook for entrepreneurs on the leadership journey from founder to CEO, and host of the From Start-Up to Grown-Up Podcast. Her articles have appeared in Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Inc. magazines, and she has been featured as an expert on Bloomberg TV, the BBC World News, and in The New York Times. Please enjoy! SUBSCRIBE: http://bit.ly/1dSzTkW LINK TO ALL SHOW TRANSCRIPTS: https://tim.blog/2018/09/20/all-transcripts-from-the-tim-ferriss-show/ About Tim Ferriss: Tim Ferriss is one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People” and an early-stage tech investor/advisor in Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ other companies. He is also the author of five #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers: The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-Hour Body, The 4-Hour Chef, Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors. The Observer and other media have named him “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of his podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show, which has exceeded 500 million downloads and been selected for “Best of Apple Podcasts” three years running. Connect with Tim Ferriss: Sign up for "5-Bullet Friday" (Tim's free weekly email newsletter): https://go.tim.blog/5-bullet-friday-yt/ Visit the Tim Ferriss PODCAST: https://tim.blog/podcast/ Visit the Tim Ferriss BLOG: https://tim.blog/ Follow Tim Ferriss on TWITTER: https://twitter.com/tferriss/ Follow Tim Ferriss on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/timferriss/ Like Tim Ferriss on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TimFerriss/ Start 00:00 Alisa's background and journey to coaching. [06:51] Alisa’s superpower and how unexpected qualifications can lead to opportunities. [17:11] Coach Cheryl Richardson and her influence. [22:12] Delivering advice that empowers. [23:56] When a Goldman Sachs opportunity closes, a startup opens. [25:56] How Alisa found her footing as a coach. [28:22] An opportunity with legendary coach Marshall Goldsmith. [33:23] On the devastating power of 360 feedback. [40:16] What I have found valuable about 360 feedback. [50:09] Premortem vs. postmortem in the 360 feedback process. [52:34] How to ensure a meeting is productive. [55:11] To offsite or not to offsite? [58:29] This makes no sense. [1:04:28] When someone doesn't improve with feedback. [1:08:27] When the only recourse is to fire them. [1:12:22] Books or resources for these tough conversations. [1:14:51] Why you shouldn't put off difficult conversations. [1:17:52] The “three words that you think about when you think about me” exercise. [1:20:45] Obstacles are the path itself. [1:26:42] Motivation over demoralization. [1:29:12] The three selfs: self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-talk. [1:34:02] “I will be okay no matter what." [1:36:19] Anxiety over things getting better. [1:37:52] How Alisa's book From Start-Up to Grown-Up came to be. [1:39:51] Procrastination. [1:43:03] Managing You, Managing Them, and Managing the Business. [1:47:27] The “marriage” of business partnership. [1:50:21] What does Alisa hope readers will take away from book? [1:54:02] Leadership is an unnatural act. [1:56:35] The economics and ecosystem of Broadway. [1:57:12] What would Alisa’s two-sided billboard say? [1:59:44] Parting thoughts. [2:00:32] Alisa gives a rundown of the scripts she teaches her clients and the circumstances they’re ideal for. [2:02:50] Scripts for quick, positive feedback. [2:05:42] A script for an employee who is junior to you. [2:08:42] A script for an employee who plays a managerial role. [2:09:28] A script for having a difficult feedback conversation. [2:10:29] A couple of scripts for when the situation hasn’t improved (and you’re not ready to fire them). [2:12:52] The firing conversation script. [2:16:12] Scripts for soliciting more feedback from your managers and bosses. [2:18:26] A script to set or reset expectations. [2:21:42] Questions for your one-on-one. [2:23:02] A script for introducing the idea of career coaching. [2:24:02] A script for telling someone you’re bringing in a manager on top of them. [2:26:09] Simple networking scripts, resources, and suggestions. [2:28:32] An email script you can use to reconnect with an old friend or colleague. [2:32:21]