CW: This episode contains brief mentions of SA and DV. @Markrosenfeld is a relationship coach who helps women build healthy romantic relationships. Relationship coaching involves a professional helping couples or individuals overcome challenges in their romantic or personal relationships. Coaches use active listening, communication techniques, and empathy to deepen understanding of partners' needs, build trust, and create emotional connections. These coaches aid in trust-building, conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and personal growth. It is helpful for couples looking to improve their relationship or individuals seeking to build healthier relationships in the future. In relationship coaching, it’s important to explore a client’s traumas and how they might show up in their relationships. Mark talks in-depth about managing expectations of others, how to communicate needs versus wants, why men cheat, and more. 1-1 coaching: https://makehimyours.com.au/coaching/work-with-mark/ Mark’s book: https://www.makehimyoursbook.com/book1 00:00 Introduction 01:28 Trauma & dating 06:00 3 basic emotional needs 10:45 Importance of being heard 14:15 Women’s needs have changed 17:21 Trauma memory 21:30 Can you love someone if you don’t love yourself? 23:15 How do you work through trauma? 26:25 Post-traumatic growth 30:45 Measure a person based on their worst day 33:00 Stakes with romantic relationships 37:20 How grief impacts relationships 39:05 Cheating 43:30 “Relationships don’t last” 48:20 Interdependence & strong relationships 53:30 Where do you start? 56:15 Ignoring intuition 57:45 Ego/Pain of seeing an ex with someone new 1:00:50 Discussing past relationships 1:11:00 Vulnerability & consistency 1:13:30 Breakup behavior 1:18:00 How to communicate needs versus wants 1:26:30 Positive feedback 1:30:15 Imperfection leads to connection 1:31:00 Mark’s work