Jealousy is a beast of a topic, so we thought long and hard about who to help us tackle it. Shandy brought the big guns: who better to talk jealousy than the woman who quite literally WROTE THE BOOK on open relationships? We're thrilled to welcome Janet W. Hardy, the co-author of The Ethical Slut, the iconic guide to polyamory that was first published in 1997 and is now on its 3rd edition. As someone experienced in both monogamy and non-monogamy, Janet is no stranger to the jealousy trap. We ask Janet: Why do we feel jealous, what do those feelings often represent, and how can we navigate them? Can jealousy be a good thing for a relationship, and is there such a thing as not being jealous enough? Finally, we pick Janet's brain about open relationships and her personal experiences with polyamory. Can non-monogamy work if it's only one-sided, and do open relationships reflect an inability to commit? Janet is an incredibly frank and honest guest, so Shandy invites you to listen with an open mind and enjoy. "The Ethical Slut" by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton - https://amzn.to/39pWx97 The referenced Rolling Stone article - https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/the-ethical-slut-inside-americas-growing-acceptance-of-polyamory-112319/ More Janet Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jhardyauthor/ Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com 00:00 - Welcome Janet W. Hardy! 02:49 - Why Do We Feel Jealous? 13:29 - How Much Do An Individual's Insecurities Play Into Their Feelings of Jealousy? 18:00 - Where Is the Line Between Feeling Jealousy and That Being Your Intuition? 23:42 - Is There Such a Thing as Jealousy Being a Good Thing? 29:53 - Is There Such a Thing as Being Not Jealous Enough? 33:16 - How Can Someone Change Their Irrational Behavior Around Jealousy? 38:55 - How Janet Realized She Wanted to Explore a Polyamorous Lifestyle 46:41 - Can One-Sided Non-Monogamy Work? 51:41 - Is an Open Relationship a Symptom of Underlying Commitment Issues? 54:28 - Shandy Takeaways Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by 7EQUIS