Today's Hot Topic conversation finally tackles a common theme among our Shandies' relationship questions over the last 2 years: What to do when one partner wants to get frisky way more than the other? Shan Boodram, our esteemed expert joining us today, could not be more qualified to take on this subject: Shan is a certified sexologist and sex and intimacy educator, among her many other qualifications, and she helps us navigate how to broach the topic of wanting more sex, how to work towards raising one's own libido, how to communicate likes/dislikes in the bedroom (without killing the mood), and how to get back into sexy time postpartum. Shan is as fun as she is knowledgeable and we guarantee you'll both laugh and learn something new throughout this conversation! More Shan: - Book "The Game Of Desire" - https://www.thegameofdesire.com/buy - Lovers And Friends Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1586679298 - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shanboody/ - Website - https://www.shanboodram.com - Shan's Turn-On Trigger Quiz - https://www.thegameofdesire.com/quiz Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Sexologist And Intimacy Educator Shan Boodram! 3:16 - What Is Sexology And Why Did She Get Into It? 8:36 - Tips For Couples Navigating Mismatched Libidos 13:55 - Does Bringing It Up More Scare It Away? 20:14 - For The Partner Who Wishes They Wanted Sex More 27:56 - Comfort and Familiarity 29:29 - Turn-On Triggers 31:12 - Where’s The Line Between Maintaining A Sex Life With A Low Libido Versus Agreeing To Have Sex When You Don’t Want To? 35:44 - Does More Beget More? 37:55 - Advice For Sex And Intimacy Postpartum 40:53 - Tips For Orgasming 43:44 - Tips On How To Get A Partner To Change What They’re Doing Without Killing The Mood? 46:12 - True Or False: Ejaculation Is Good For Men’s Health 50:32 - Thoughts On Today’s Swipe Culture And Dating Climate 57:42 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion