Discover the heart-wrenching story of Jared and Ashley Jones as they bravely shed light on the sensitive issue of child abuse within the Mormon community. In this eye-opening interview, they delve into Jared's Mormon upbringing and the damaging effects of constant messages about pornography and sexual sin. Uncover the cycle of shame and guilt that Jared experienced, including the inappropriate questioning by Bishops and the downplaying of their own childhood sexual abuse. Gain insight into the failures of the church and family system in addressing and protecting victims. Explore the profound impact of Mormon sexual shame on their marriage and the punitive measures they faced when seeking help. Don't miss this powerful discussion on the far-reaching consequences of spiritual abuse within Mormonism. Episode Show Notes: https://www.mormonstories.org/podcast/mormon-sa-jared-ashley-jones/ 00:00:00 Intro & Intentions 00:06:50 Jared’s Mormon upbringing in Riverside, CA 00:24:30 Constant messages about pornography and sexual sin 00:38:00 If you check these boxes you will be happy…but I wasn’t 00:43:30 Masturbation as part of the Mormon porn shame cycle 00:53:45 Experiencing sexual abuse as a Mormon child. Reaction of parents & the Ward 01:08:35 How the church and family system can fail a Mormon kid 01:32ish How the Church’s policies treat abusers as the real victims 01:39:00 Jared “moves on with life,” wants to prepare for mission 01:42:00 Struggles with dating 01:46:00 Sexual shame after being groomed by adult woman at work. 02:01:00 Victim-blaming for rape in Mormonism 02:18:00 Serving a mission in Australia, political awakening 02:23:45 Ashley’s upbringing & meeting Jared 02:38:00 Dating, married within 3 months of his returning from mission 02:42:450 How Mormon sexual shame and abuse played into their marriage 03:07:45 Sexual gatekeeping and policing within Mormonism 03:22:45 Decide to adopt, had to answer questions about pornography for LDSFS 03:28:45 The unhealthy pressure on women/wives 03:31:45 Why I call this “spiritual abuse” ___________________ At Mormon Stories we explore, celebrate, and challenge Mormon culture through in-depth stories told by members and former members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as well as scholars, authors, LDS apologists, and other professionals. Our overall mission is to: 1. Facilitate informed consent amongst LDS Church members, investigators, and non-members regarding Mormon history, doctrine, and theology 2. Support Mormons (and members of other high-demand religions) who are experiencing a religious faith crisis 3. Promote healing, growth and community for those who choose to leave the LDS Church or other high demand religions 🤝Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today One-time or recurring donations: https://donorbox.org/mormon-stories?default_interval=m Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mormonstories Our Platforms: 🌐Mormon Stories Blog: https://www.mormonstories.org/episodes 🎙️Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mormonstories ✳️Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sDzk7dRjODTSEqzZKZJzk?si=148b0efc1ccc4404&nd=1 🍎Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mormon-stories-lds/id312094772 🖼️Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mormstories 📱TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mormonstoriespodcast 🎮Discord: https://discord.com/invite/kuX5p6yyjF Contact us: 📧 MormonStories@gmail.com 📬PO Box 171085, Salt Lake City, UT 84117 #MormonStories #Mormon #lds