This episode is sponsored by Aura Frames, Nutrafol, Tovala & StoryWorth. Aura Frames: Exclusive $35 off Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/UNPLANNED Promo Code UNPLANNED Nutrafol: Nutrafol is offering our listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription plus free shipping when you go to http://nutrafol.com and use promo code UNPLANNEDPOD. Tovala: For a limited time, save up to $300 on the Tovala smart oven when you order meals 6+ times, by visiting http://Tovala.com/UNPLANNED and using code UNPLANNED. StoryWorth: For a limited time, save up to $300 on the Tovala smart oven when you order meals 6+ times, by visiting http://Tovala.com/UNPLANNED and using code UNPLANNED. Matt & Abby bring back Agree to Disagree on The Unplanned Podcast, where they react to relationship, parenting, grief, and marriage statements — and decide whether they agree, disagree, or fall somewhere in between. As the game moves through three levels, the conversation gets more personal. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbbyHoward Chapters: 00:00 - Agree to Disagree 02:41 - How it works 03:33 - LEVEL 1 03:35 - Our miscarriage changed our marriage 07:04 - We got married too young 09:26 - Having kids made us lose parts of ourselves 12:53 - When screen time is okay 16:05 - Letting the dog in our bed 17:26 - Having similar life goals 19:13 - Homemade gifts are better 22:53 - The person who cooks shouldn't have to clean 25:20 - Your spouse should come before your extended family 26:26 - We trauma bought a puppy 28:01 - Vacations should be more relaxing 31:41 - The internet has done more harm than good 32:49 - LEVEL 2 33:34 - We look happier on social media 34:45 - Social media is hurting our relationship 36:08 - You should have your partners password 36:48 - Going through your partner's phone 37:34 - Being friend with the opposite gender 40:52 - Being friends with your ex 42:50 - White lies in a relationship 44:19 - You would still be with me if I cheated 49:15 - I have considered cheating 50:09 - I have considered divorce 53:23 - Grieving our miscarriage 54:18 - We rushed our healing 57:35 - Our puppy made marriage harder 58:11 - Money doesn't buy happiness 1:00:25 - Giving each other emotional support 1:01:30 - We don't make each other a priority anymore 1:01:47 - We're more like roommates 1:02:53 - Abby starts more arguments 1:03:29 - Abby does more of the housework 1:06:22 - We haven't fully recovered from our last fight 1:07:09 - LEVEL 3 1:07:24 - We wouldn't be together today if we met now 1:07:53 - Soulmates are not real 1:08:44 - There is someone more compatible for you 1:10:06 - Our marriage hasn't fully healed 1:10:47 - Life without my spouse 1:12:30 - Being on the same page about having babies 1:12:46 - Having another baby scares me 1:13:33 - We expect too much from each other 1:14:24 - Flirting is cheating 1:15:54 - We’re not the same people we married 1:16:11 - One of us carries most of the mental load 1:16:53 - Spending your whole life with one person is overwhelming 1:18:59 - I wish I had kissed someone else before marriage #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby