In today’s episode, you’ll learn how to beat self-doubt, stop procrastinating, and communicate with ease and confidence. Joining Mel today is Dr. Shadé Zahrai, a behavioral researcher and confidence expert, to teach you a research-backed, 4-part framework for building unshakeable confidence and eliminating self-doubt. Dr. Zahrai says that self-doubt shows up in many different ways - from overthinking, to constant comparison, to blame and resentment, and yes… to procrastination. Today, she will walk you through the framework she says will start to dissolve that self-doubt once and for all, part by part. You’ll learn: -The 2 things to do when you don’t like yourself -4 signs you feel powerless in your life - and what to do next -A proven way to worry less - and it starts with your phone alarm -The 4 sneaky ways self-doubt shows up -The one word to cut from your vocabulary and what to say instead -How to change your voice so you sound confident when it counts -The mind-blowing scar experiment that shows how your mindset shapes every interaction -How your first jobs hardwire the way you show up at work - for years -The 4 “trust traits” that run your relationships and your career -Why feeling like an imposter is a good sign - and how to use it -What chronic complaining tells people about you - and how it keeps you stuck -How to make better decisions under pressure, without second-guessing yourself after By the time you’re done listening, you’ll have the tools you need, and you’ll know which one to use for your own personal struggles, so that you finally show up for your life with the confidence you deserve. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-394/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. This episode is brought to you by Apple Card In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:16 Is It Possible To Overcome Self-Doubt? 05:14 What Is The Cure For Self-Doubt? 15:53 How To Get Rid Of Self-Doubt And Gain Confidence 24:16 5 Simple Ways To Build Self Acceptance 34:33 How To Build Confidence With A High Agency Mindset 41:52 What Happens When You Embrace Autonomy? 44:28 How Do I Stop Overthinking Everything? 47:27 How and Why You Should Stop Complaining 49:57 Why You Should Stop Blaming Others 53:07 How To Look Confident 57:31 How To Sound Confident 01:03:24 Finding The Balance Between Courage And Humanness 01:10:58 Dr. Shadé Zahrai Wants You To Lower Your Standards — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah