In this Part 2 of 3, we return to Jeff & Larissa's story. Now married, Larissa gives up her University Studies to help Jeff through Med school. They share their struggles with infertility, the adoption process, and adopting black children as orthodox Mormons. Larissa faces difficulties in early motherhood and building resentment as they settle into traditional LDS gender roles. Larissa feels she is losing herself wrapped up in her husband's life, while at the same time trying to silence that part of her that is unhappy, seeing it as "wrong." Larissa is called as a RS President, even as she becomes more vocally progressive/feminist and has hope for the Church to change, but it doesn't last. Jeff realizes the Gospel can't fix Larissa's unhappiness as the root cause is Patriarchy. He serves in Bishoprics for 7 years before discovering more about Church history from the CES Letter, and Rough Stone Rolling, with the Gospel Topics Essays being the final straw. Jeff & Larissa finally recognize the level of harm of systemic racism & sexism in Mormonism and no longer wish to be a part of it. Larissa Kindred: https://www.instagram.com/lkindred/ https://twitter.com/exmo_mama Jeff Kindred: https://twitter.com/jeff_kindred Chapters: 00:00:00 Introduction & recap 00:05:00 Mormon baby-making, infertility, adopting black children 00:23:00 Settling into LDS gender roles, Larissa feels guilt & building resentment. 00:32:45 Raising black/bi-racial children as Mormons & the Black Lives Matter movement 00:53:00 Jeff serves for 7 years in bishoprics while Larissa’s life revolves around Jeff’s. 01:03:00 Larissa’s initial suppression then awakening of feminism 01:15:00 Jeff discovers the CES Letter, Rough Stone Rolling, Gospel Topics Essays & Mormon Stories Podcast. 01:21:30 Larissa becomes more progressive and Jeff’s reflections 00:36:30 Reconsidering your progressive Mormon dream. Doesn’t change the patriarchy/authority. 01:47:15 Jeff realizes that the gospel isn’t the solution to his wife’s unhappiness when patriarchy is the problem. Mormon feminism is a “dead end.” 01:50:45 COVID + 2020 election challenging Jeff as “the spirit” seems to be a stand-in for “conspiracy theories” 02:00:45 Being a physician during COVID 02:04:15 Talking to black children about Black Lives Matter & realizing the depth of Mormon racism cause Jeff & Larissa to become disenfranchised with the Church 02:10:30 Jeff is called to a disciplinary council for his Democratic & progressive views. 02:14:30 Understanding systems of oppression & how terrified the Church is of feminism. Episode Show Notes: https://mormonstories.org/podcast/a-japanese-american-mormon-story-jeff-and-larissa-kindred/ _________________________ ABOUT US: Mormon Stories Podcast is the longest-running and most successful podcast in Mormonism - hosted by Dr. John Dehlin. At Mormon Stories we explore, celebrate, and challenge Mormon culture through in-depth stories told by members and former members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. We also occasionally interview scholars, authors, LDS apologists, and other professionals. Our overall mission is to: 1) Facilitate informed consent amongst LDS Church members, investigators, and non-members regarding Mormon history, doctrine, and theology, 2) Support Mormons (and members of other high-demand religions) who are experiencing a religious faith crisis, and 3) Promote healing, growth and community for those who choose to leave the LDS Church or other high demand religions. Mormon Stories Podcast is a product of the Open Stories Foundation - a 501c3 non-profit dedicated to supporting Mormons in religious transition. Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today: One-time or recurring donations: https://donorbox.org/mormon-stories?default_interval=m Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mormonstories Amazon Smile: Be sure to select “Mormon Stories” website: https://smile.amazon.com app: https://amz.run/5r2M Our Platforms: Mormon Stories Blog: https://www.mormonstories.org/episodes Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mormonstories Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4sDzk7dRjODTSEqzZKZJzk?si=148b0efc1ccc4404&nd=1 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mormon-stories-lds/id312094772 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mormstories TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mormonstoriespodcast Discord: https://discord.com/invite/kuX5p6yyjF Contact us: MormonStories@gmail.com PO Box 171085, Salt Lake City, UT 84117 #MormonStories #Mormon #lds