Jillian Turecki is a relationship expert, New York Times bestselling author of It Begins With You, and host of Jillian on Love. We discuss why intimacy reveals our character defects, childhood patterns that sabotage love, why there's no cruise control in relationships, and more. READ MORE👉🏼http://bit.ly/richroll946 ✌🏼🌱 – Rich This Episode Is Brought To You By… Bon Charge: Use coupon code RICHROLL20 to save 20%👉🏼https://bit.ly/boncharge2025 Roka: Unlock 20% OFF your order with code RICHROLL👉🏼https://bit.ly/ROKA2025 On: High-performance shoes & apparel crafted for comfort and style👉🏼https://bit.ly/ONXRRP2025 Squarespace: Use code RichRoll to save 10% off👉🏼https://bit.ly/squarespace2025 Check out all of the amazing discounts from our Sponsors👉🏼https://www.richroll.com/sponsors LISTEN / SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/rrpitunes Spotify: http://bit.ly/rrpspotify Google: http://bit.ly/rrpgooglepods Meal Planner: http://meals.richroll.com Voicing Change Book: http://richroll.com/vc Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/RichRollPodcastClips Newsletter: http://bit.ly/rollcallemail 00:00:00 Intro 00:02:11 Defining Love & Relationship Patterns 00:08:41 Cultural Influences & Choosing Partners 00:14:38 Discernment vs. Perfectionism in Relationships 00:17:49 Self-Awareness & Relationship Patterns 00:21:29 Jillian's Background, Relationship with Her Father 00:21:47 Personal Backstory & Family Dynamics 00:28:13 Sponsor Break 00:30:57 Trauma, Heartbreak, and Growth 00:34:07 Happiness, Fulfillment, and Self-Responsibility 00:35:46 Foundations of Healthy Relationships 00:40:43 Work, Effort, and Growth in Relationships 00:43:10 Trust, Vulnerability, and Communication 00:46:57 Accountability & Conflict Resolution 00:48:14 Relationship Myths & Self-Work 00:51:12 Confidence, Character, and Attraction 00:54:09 Growth Mindset & Compatibility 00:55:47 The Power of Personal Stories 00:59:09 Breaking Patterns & Taking Contrary Action 01:01:36 Sponsor Break 01:03:48 Trust, Betrayal, and Infidelity 01:09:15 Should I Stay or Go? 01:14:58 Needs, Expectations, and Early Relationships 01:17:32 Gender Assumptions & Emotional Needs 01:24:32 Parental Influence & Generational Patterns 01:31:42 Parenting, Resilience, and Modeling 01:34:53 Modern Dating Challenges & Technology 01:41:18 Dating App Complaints & Social Skills 01:48:25 Accountability, Coaching, and Self-Improvement 01:54:59 Therapy vs. Coaching & Change Readiness 02:00:21 Final Insights: Self-Work & Self-Acceptance CONNECT WITH RICH ✩ Website - http://richroll.com​ ✩ Rich Roll Podcast - https://richroll.com/all-episodes/ ✩ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/richroll/ ✩ Twitter - https://twitter.com/richroll ✩ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/richrollfans ✩ Strava - https://www.strava.com/athletes/14443?oq=rich ✩ Memoir: Finding Ultra - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/finding-ultra/ ✩ Meals - http://meals.richroll.com​ ✩ Cook - The Plantpower Way - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/the-plantpower-way-signed/ ✩ Italian! - The Plantpower Way: Italia - https://www.richroll.com/shop/books/the-plantpower-way-italia-signed/ ✩ Support - https://www.patreon.com/richroll Thanks To The Team: Jason Camiolo, Dan Drake, Morgan McRae, Blake Curtis, Desmond Loh * * * * * NEW TO RICH? Hi I'm Rich Roll. I'm a vegan ultra-endurance athlete, author, podcaster, public speaker & wellness evangelist. But mainly I'm a dad of four. If you want to know more, visit my website or check out these two the NY Times articles: http://bit.ly/otillonyt http://bit.ly/vegansglam I LOVE MAIL! SEND IT HERE: 2630 Conejo Spectrum St. Thousand Oaks, CA 91320 #richroll #richrollpodcast