James Kimmel Jr. is a professor at Yale, a psychiatrist, and an author. Why are we drawn to revenge? From playground grudges to epic betrayals, the urge to strike back is universal. But is it a survival mechanism, or an ancient drive that no longer fits the modern age? Expect to learn why the feeling of revenge exists and how it is adaptive, what the biggest triggers of the desire for revenge is, why revenge and revenge fantasies make us feel good, the difference between revenge seeking and self defence or boundary setting, if some people happen to be more vengeful than others, if you should be lauding to forgive rathe than seek revenge, the steps to move through forgiveness, and much more… - 0:00 Choosing to Not Choose Revenge 7:57 Why Do We Feel Desire for Revenge? 11:39 What are the Biggest Drivers of Revenge? 15:06 How Do We Recover from Revenge Seeking? 21:40 Is There a Connection Between Addictive Behaviour and Revenge? 24:47 The Difference Between Revenge-Seeking and Self-Defence 33:17 The Muddling of Justice and Revenge 43:46 Revenge Isn’t Evil, It’s Retribution 50:35 What Outcomes Drive Revenge? 56:48 The Legal System is a Professional Revenge Business 58:36 The Cycle of Revenge on Social Media 01:06:50 What is Social Justice? 01:09:10 Are Certain Groups More Susceptible to Revenge? 01:14:55 Warning Signs for Revenge Desire 01:19:12 Strategies to Stop Revenge Desire 01:21:13 What Does Modern Revenge and Forgiveness Culture Look Like? 01:34:43 Find Out More About James - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/