Ready to begin or deepen your meditation practice? Join Dan Harris and world-class meditation teachers on the 10% with Dan Harris app here: https://app.danharris.com/membership Your mind gets stuck. All day, every day. On things you like and want more of, on opinions you can't let go of, on the "right" way to load the dishwasher, on the very idea that there's a solid "you" running the show. The Buddha had a list for this — four ways we cling — and it might be the most practical Buddhist teaching you'll encounter all year. Pascal Auclair is back on the show to walk us through it. He's been studying and practicing Buddhism since 1997 and is a co-founder and guiding teacher of True North Insight, and one of our favorite teachers on the 10% with Dan Harris app. In this episode: – Why pleasure isn't the problem (and how we ruin it for ourselves anyway) – The honey-on-a-razor-blade move we all make a hundred times a day – "Vipassana joy" — the strange delight of catching yourself in the act of clinging – What to do when your views feel righteous and the stakes feel high (the "pandemic of certainty") – The argument Pascal has with his partner about which order to put vegetables in the pan — and what it reveals about clinging to norms – The brain-breaking Buddhist teaching on "non-self" — and how to actually get it – Pascal lying on a bed at a retreat trying to locate the "I" (and what he found) – Why the Artemis astronauts and the overview effect are a perfect dharma lesson – How a generosity practice quietly dissolves the self Subscribe to watch more 10% Happier videos: https://www.youtube.com/tenpercenthappier Follow Dan Harris on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/danharris/ https://www.tiktok.com/@danbharris https://www.facebook.com/DanHarrisABC https://twitter.com/danbharris https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-harris-91ba5716b/ 0:00:00 What "the four kinds of clinging" actually are 0:03:00 Pascal on practice that's slowly integrating 0:09:00 Clinging #1: Sense pleasure and the honey on a razor 0:13:00 Jet Li, the Buddha, and why "having it all" isn't enough 0:17:00 The way out: mindfulness as freshness, not acquisition 0:22:00 "Vipassana joy" — the delight of catching yourself 0:26:00 Clinging #2: Views — permanence and satisfaction as traps 0:36:00 What to do when your views feel righteous (the pandemic of certainty) 0:40:00 Clinging #3: Rites, rituals, and the onions-vs.-meat fight 0:44:00 "We've always done it this way" as a spiritual problem 0:47:00 Clinging #4: Self — making things "me" and "mine" 0:52:00 Two truths at once: your house is yours, and also isn't 0:59:00 Pascal lying on a bed looking for the "I" 1:03:00 Generosity as the practical exit 1:05:00 What the Artemis astronauts saw about belonging #10PercentHappier #PascalAuclair #FourKindsOfClinging This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. With over 30,000 therapists, BetterHelp is the world's largest online therapy platform, having served over six million people globally. Therapists work according to a strict code of conduct and are fully licensed in the US. Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com/happier. This episode is brought to you by Quo. Quo is the business communication system built so you never miss a call — your entire team can handle calls and texts from one shared number, with the full thread visible to everyone. Try Quo for free and get 20% off your first six months at https://quo.com/happier. This episode is brought to you by Rosetta Stone. Rosetta Stone Sapphire combines Rosetta Stone's trusted immersion method with the latest in language learning to help you go from knowing phrases to speaking confidently about what you actually care about. Get 20% off your Rosetta Stone Sapphire subscription, plus unlimited access to all 25 languages, at https://www.rosettastone.com/happier.