It can be difficult to grasp how much power of persuasion we actually have, or how to wield it wisely.  In today’s episode we look at science-based strategies for observing the effect we have on others, and how to better deal with our fear of rejection, and asking for favors.  Vanessa Bohns is a social psychologist and a professor of organizational behavior at Cornell University. She is the author of You Have More Influence Than You Think: How We Underestimate Our Power of Persuasion, and Why it Matters. In this episode we talk about: * How much we often underestimate our own influence  * Why it’s so hard to say no * Why people are paying attention to us more than we think * The impact of asking for things in-person * The responsibility that comes with being in a position of power * What it means to experience your own influence  * And how we can be more aware of the influence we have Get more information about mindfulness & meditation at www.TenPercent.com Check out guided meditations alongside practical teachings in the Ten Percent Happier app. Click here [https://10percenthappier.app.link/install] to get started. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/vanessa-bohns-550 [https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/vanessa-bohns-550] Wed Jan 25 2023 Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris Dan Harris is a fidgety, skeptical journalist who had a panic attack on live national television, which led him to try something he otherwise never would have considered: meditation. He went on to write the bestselling book, 10% Happier. On this show, Dan talks with eminent meditation teachers, top scientists, and even the odd celebrity. Guests include everyone from His Holiness the Dalai Lama to Brené Brown to Karamo from Queer Eye. On some episodes, Dan ventures into the deep end of the pool, covering subjects such as enlightenment and psychedelics. On other episodes, it’s science-based techniques for issues such as anxiety, productivity, and relationships. Dan's approach is seemingly modest, but secretly radical: happiness is a skill you can train, just like working your bicep in the gym. Your progress may be incremental at first, but like any good investment, it compounds over time. New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free. Listen 1-week early and to all episodes ad-free with Wondery+ or Amazon Music with a Prime membership or Amazon Music Unlimited subscription. Ten Percent Happier