Dr Karen Gurney is a Clinical Psychologist, Psychosexologist and Couples Therapist, she has been helping couples tackle sex problems for over 20 years. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Mind The Gap: The truth about desire and how to future proof your sex life’. 0:00 Intro 02:43 What Do You Do and Why Do You Do It? 04:32 Our Attention Is Being Hijacked Which Is Affecting Our Sex Lives 10:33 Why Does Sex Get Harder the More We Think About It 12:26 Why Expectations and Pressure Make Sex Worse 16:32 Our Society Has Created a "Sexual Script" That's Wrong 17:46 How to Talk About Sex with Your Partner 23:45 How to Tell Your Partner You're Not Attracted to Them Anymore 26:32 How to Not Let Kids Ruin Your Sex Life 28:01 The Demographic That Comes to You More Than Any Other 28:52 Why Desire Goes in a Relationship 34:49 How to Trigger Desire in Your Relationship 39:10 The "Initiation" Problem 40:57 Should We Schedule Sex? 43:41 What Should We Be Doing to Keep Desire High in Our Relationships 46:31 How to Talk About Your Fetish with Your Partner 51:30 What Women Really Want During Sex 53:21 Does It Matter Who Initiates Sex? 56:40 If Our Idea of What We Want From Sex Isn't Happening What Should We Do? 59:07 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do? 01:00:32 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do? 01:01:51 Should We Have Sex Before or After We Eat? 01:03:58 The Optimal Amount of Times to Have Sex 01:05:52 Sexual Dissatisfaction Between Men and Women 01:08:30 How to Deal with a Sex Life as a Parent 01:12:30 What You Can Do as a Parent to Ensure Your Sex Life Doesn't Go Off Track 01:14:02 The Relationship Between Poor Sleep and Sex 01:17:15 At What Point Should People Reach Out to You? 01:17:57 Have You Ever Seen Relationships That Are Unrecoverable? 01:19:21 The Top 3 Most Common Sexual Problems 01:21:22 The Impact of Pets on Our Sex Lives 01:23:19 Are You Hopeful for the Future of Sex? 01:24:40 How Menopause Affects Our Sex Lives 01:25:57 Our Bodies Changing Over Time and How That Impacts Our Sex Lives 01:27:03 Are We Meant to Be Monogamous? 01:32:27 The Last Guest’s Question You can pre-order Karen’s book, ‘How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life’, here: https://amzn.to/49mvtnx Follow Karen Twitter - https://bit.ly/4bEnROQ Instagram - https://bit.ly/49i1AEP Get tickets to The Business & Life Speaking Tour: https://stevenbartlett.com/tour/ Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-a57w-aPwyi3pW7XLiHw/join Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Sponsors: https://www.eightsleep.com/uk/steven/ CODE: STEVEN (save $150 on the Pod Cover)