Iconic Therapist Dr. Sue Johnson — How to Improve Sex and Crack the Code of Love | Brought to you by Laird Superfood plant-based creamers (http://lairdsuperfood.com/tim), Headspace easy-to-use app with guided meditations (http://headspace.com/tim), and Eight Sleep’s Pod Pro Cover sleeping solution for dynamic cooling and heating (http://eightsleep.com/Tim). Dr. Sue Johnson (@Dr_SueJohnson) is a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue has received numerous awards in recognition of her development of EFT, including the American Psychological Association’s “Family Psychologist of the Year” and the Order of Canada. Her best-selling book Hold Me Tight — with more than one million copies sold—has taught countless couples how to enhance and repair their love relationships. The book has since been developed into a relationship enhancement program called Hold Me Tight Online. Her most recent book for clinicians, Attachment Theory in Practice, delineates the promise of attachment science for understanding and repairing relationships. As the founding director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), Sue trains counselors in EFT worldwide and provides guidance to 80 affiliated centers. She consults for the US and Canadian militaries and is a popular presenter and speaker for the general public. Please enjoy! SUBSCRIBE: http://bit.ly/1dSzTkW LINK TO ALL SHOW TRANSCRIPTS: https://tim.blog/2018/09/20/all-transcripts-from-the-tim-ferriss-show/ About Tim Ferriss: Tim Ferriss is one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People” and an early-stage tech investor/advisor in Uber, Facebook, Twitter, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ other companies. He is also the author of five #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers: The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-Hour Body, The 4-Hour Chef, Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors. The Observer and other media have named him “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of his podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show, which has exceeded 500 million downloads and been selected for “Best of Apple Podcasts” three years running. Connect with Tim Ferriss: Sign up for "5-Bullet Friday" (Tim's free weekly email newsletter): https://go.tim.blog/5-bullet-friday-yt/ Visit the Tim Ferriss PODCAST: https://tim.blog/podcast/ Visit the Tim Ferriss BLOG: https://tim.blog/ Follow Tim Ferriss on TWITTER: https://twitter.com/tferriss/ Follow Tim Ferriss on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/timferriss/ Like Tim Ferriss on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TimFerriss/ Start [00:00] What peer-reviewed clinical research supports Sue’s work? [01:55] How is success clinically defined for couples using EFT? [04:44] Assessing marital satisfaction and bond [08:44] What is a Hold Me Tight conversation? [14:50] Examples of Hold Me Tight conversations [16:11] How it could work for someone who has a tendency to isolate [25:48] “Dependency” is not a dirty word [34:23] Attachment parenting and sleep training [38:23] What are micro-interventions from Rogerian models of therapy (aka evocative questions)? [48:04] What if you can't answer how you’re feeling in your body? [56:43] What is “upping the ante” in a relationship conversation? [1:03:19] How does Sue help someone work through anger? [1:05:21] Why Sue is fascinated by Winston Churchill [1:08:47] Books to start learning more about Winston Churchill [1:10:36] Tango as a model for relationships [1:14:43] When the sexual spark has faded [1:27:30] When the man loses interest in sex [1:36:57] Sue’s Hold Me Tight Online program and what you can expect from it [1:42:30] Parting thoughts [1:50:14]