Our guest, Dr. Marisa G. Franco, has written a bestselling book about how understanding your own psychological makeup and attachment style can help you make and keep friends. In this episode we talk about: * Why friendship is undervalued in our society (while romantic love is overvalued) and why this is damaging on both a societal and individual level * The impact of technology on our relationships as explained by something called “displacement theory” * The biological necessity of social connection and the devastating physiological and psychological impacts of loneliness * Attachment style and its relationship to our friendships * What you can do to make friends, including being open or vulnerable (without oversharing) * How to reframe social rejection * The importance of generosity * How to handle conflict with your friends * The difference between flaccid safety and dynamic safety in your friendships * When to walk away from a relationship * How to make friends across racial, gender, and socioeconomic lines * How to deal with social anxiety * And how our evolutionarily wired negativity bias can impact the process of making friends Dr. Franco is a psychologist and a professor at the University of Maryland. Her book is called Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/]. Learn more about Ten Percent Happier podcast at http://www.tenpercent.com. Check out guided meditations alongside practical teachings in the Ten Percent Happier app. Click here [https://10percenthappier.app.link/ins...] to get started. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/marisa-g-franco-561 #attachment #friends #science #social #rejection #relationship #conflict