In this episode, Sabrina breaks down self-abandonment in dating and relationships, why losing yourself often gets mislabeled as love, and how chronic people-pleasing, codependency, and anxious attachment actually form. Using psychology, neuroscience, and attachment theory, she explains differentiation of self, emotional fusion, and how the nervous system drives self-betrayal, protest behavior, and fear of abandonment in romantic relationships. You’ll learn how to choose yourself without blowing up your relationship, stop outsourcing emotional regulation, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect to your intuition versus anxiety. This episode is essential for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety, overgiving, losing their voice in dating, or repeating unhealthy relationship patterns. Big announcement: For the first time ever, I'm hosting a live workshop and you're invited. If dating feels exhausting and you can't figure out why it keeps ending the same way, this is for you. You'll be the first to learn my new 3-step framework for understanding what's keeping you stuck and how to change it. Plus you get my implementation workbook. REGISTER HERE: https://mc.sabrinazohar.com/?utm_source=YT&utm_medium=13&utm_campaign=webinar Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSKQduzS78E6-I9tx0jqjpw?sub_confirmation=1 Support the show by supporting our sponsors: Head to https://Greenchef.com/50sabrina and use code 50sabrina to get fifty percent off your first month, then twenty percent off for two months with free shipping. Treat yourself to gear that looks good, feels good, and doesn’t break the bank with Fabletics. Go to https://Fabletics.com/SABRINA and sign up as a VIP and get eighty percent off everything! ABOUT SABRINA ZOHAR: Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur, relationship coach, and host of the hit podcast The Sabrina Zohar Show. With over a million followers on both Instagram and TikTok, along with a thriving online community, Sabrina is known for her honest, relatable approach to modern dating, relationships, and self-growth. After launching her sustainable clothing brand SoftWear, Sabrina’s journey took a transformative turn when she began sharing her personal experiences with dating and emotional wellness online. Her real talk quickly resonated, earning her features in outlets like NBC, The LA Times, The Tamron Hall Show and Vogue. Through online courses, one-on-one coaching, and candid conversations, Sabrina empowers her audience to “do the work” and create lasting change in their relationships-with others and themselves. FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar? Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sabrina-zohar-show/id1668235178 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Dsp24A82JkYRXytiA2qRt Website:https://www.sabrinazohar.com/ ============================= Chapters 00:00 – What Self-Abandonment Looks Like 03:10 – Why “Choose Yourself” Feels Hard 06:05 – Differentiation of Self Explained 09:00 – Codependency & Emotional Fusion 12:10 – Anxiety vs Intuition in Dating 15:10 – Nervous System & Relationship Fear 18:20 – 3 Types of Self-Abandonment 22:00 – Boundaries Without Guilt 25:00 – Choosing Yourself in Relationships 28:10 – The Fusion Check Tool Copyright Notice: This video and my YouTube channel contain dialogue, music, and images that are property of SABRINA ZOHAR. You are authorized to share the video link and channel, and embed this video in your website or others as long as a link back to my Youtube Channel is provided. © SABRINA ZOHAR 2025 Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. If You’re Losing Yourself in Relationships, This Episode Is For You| Sabrina Zohar https://youtu.be/bPcBoIXQig8